Encouragement to Mothers from A Mother

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Hello sisters!
Let us rejoice in this day regardless of our trials and tribulations as our Lord and Savior has gone to prepare a place for us...
In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. (John 14:2)
We are only here in this flesh but for a short time compared to eternity!  
For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. (Romans 8:18)


Today I wanted to share some encouragement with you sisters that have young children at home and this comes from another sister who has 3 young children with one on the way very soon!  She sent this as an encouragement to a specific sister we know but we decided to post it here for all sisters to be encouraged.  She gave me permission to do some minor adjustments in wording to fit everyone.

Mothers need to know this - that it’s the world system that trains our brains as parents to think that our children NEED socialization. That they need friends. Or a best friend their own age. That They have to have that to thrive. The world says children need socialization and need school friends, and they need lots of kids to play with. Etc etc. 
This is just the world and not what the word of God says. There isn’t anything in the word mentioning children needing friends. It just says that parents are to teach and train their own children at home and protect them from the world. To discipline them and raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 
When it comes down to it, I believe it is actually a mothers fear of her lack of adult fellowship in her own life, and her own fear of being lonely or being abandoned or doing motherhood alone that scares her. This fear is what she can unknowingly put onto her child and try to get friendships happening for her child.
 I am in this Motherhood thing too... pretty much alone. But, I am not into the whole socialization thing for children. The word of God says that foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child. It’s much better for a child to grow up with Godly adults around them influencing them and passing on wisdom, than for a child to be hanging around with other foolish childhood play mates. Look at Isaac, Abraham’s son. He just had his mum and dad and the servants. Look at Samuel, Hannah’s son, who was given to serve at the temple with Eli, from as soon as he was weaned off the breast. Some of the greatest bible men and women didn’t have friends. Just Godly adults to raise them. 
Of course, I am a believer in being fruitful and multiplying as a family, and having more children means there are automatic friendships and play mates happening within your own household. Great thing is, they are all being raised the same way and have the same mindset so it’s very safe friendships! Many Christians out there living for God have gone off grid and living off the land... their children don’t have friends out there either. 
I hope this encourages all godly mothers. So they shouldn’t worry at all about their children only having her mum and dad. 
One other thing... if this families can’t have more children its still OK. Because the mother and child can form a friendship and a strong bond together. And learn to be keepers at home together. 
(In this case she was referring to a mother with just one daughter)

It can be harder on the mother, only having one child because it can be more demanding when she is everything to the child. But in saying this - if this mother can establish some boundaries with her child this will help a lot. 
On a daily basis if the mother can get the child involved in everything she has to do around the house - this is good, and the child can become such a good help to the mother and not a burden. They can read books together, go for picnics in nature and go to creeks to find cool rocks, and learn to knit together and sew and cook and clean together... this is very good. The child will be so busy and won’t care for friends as she has her mummy anyway! Some single children get served by the parent because the parent feels guilty they are an only child. No way! Not the case. The little child can be taught how to serve along side her mother by helping in everything. It’s never too early to get them washing up dishes, sweeping up messes etc. Even just simply making sure the child does a “tidy time” 3 times a day to clean up her toy messes. 
It will benefit the mother too if she can also establish breather breaks from her child too in the day, so the mother has some time. Like, a scheduled in and timed tea break or down time, and the little child must go and play by themself in this time for a half hour while mummy lays down, chores or reads God's Word. Every mother needs to have a bit of space to think sometimes.  So if she can get a break in the day, and a routine happening where they both have quiet time to do separate things for awhile it will help this mother a lot. 

 This sister and her husband have no other believers in their area and are in fact on another continent, praise God for technology for us all to encourage one another!   Her and her husband raise the children, not allowing them to be polluted by the world and worldy friendships and are striving on the narrow path. I appreciated the fact that she pointed out what most people would ignore, that oftentimes it's the parent that wants the socializing and not so much the children because most children are content to shadow mom and dad and learn from them...it's when they get a taste of the world that they long for more.  

 Keep those preciouse souls out from the world and raise them for the Lord.

 Let's read about Hannah dedicating her child to the Lord.
21 When her husband Elkanah went up with all his family to offer the annual sacrifice to the Lord and to fulfill his vow, 22 Hannah did not go. She said to her husband, “After the boy is weaned, I will take him and present him before the Lord, and he will live there always.”
23 “Do what seems best to you,” her husband Elkanah told her. “Stay here until you have weaned him; only may the Lord make good his word.” So the woman stayed at home and nursed her son until she had weaned him.
24 After he was weaned, she took the boy with her, young as he was, along with a three-year-old bull, an ephah of flour and a skin of wine, and brought him to the house of the Lord at Shiloh. 25 When the bull had been sacrificed, they brought the boy to Eli, 26 and she said to him, “Pardon me, my lord. As surely as you live, I am the woman who stood here beside you praying to the Lord. 27 I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him. 28 So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he will be given over to the Lord.” And he worshiped the Lord there.
(1 Samuel 1:21-28)

And we know how Abraham was about to sacrifice his son at the direction of the Lord.  We need to remember these children are not ours and we should raise them in Him by the directions He has given in His Word.
We are to be content in our situations and not allow our flesh to bring us to a place of compromise and we see fellowship idolatry and socialization for children to be a big downfall for Christians.

I hope this has helped you sister mothers!

Have a joyous day!
Sister Deb

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