Decorating our Homes
Good evening sisters!
Proverbs 2:1-11
Proverbs 2:1-11
My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide my commandments with thee;
So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding;
Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding;
If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures;
Then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God.
For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.
He layeth up sound wisdom for the righteous: he is a buckler to them that walk uprightly.
He keepeth the paths of judgment, and preserveth the way of his saints.
Then shalt thou understand righteousness, and judgment, and equity; yea, every good path.
When wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul;
Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee
Speaking of wisdom, we godly women need much of it to discern our lives and our homes. One topic I haven't talked about, nor do most people even discuss is 'decorating our homes'.
Can we decorate them? How much?
I don't have a concrete answer for that but I will share with you the conviction that brother Jim and I have come to. We see that we believers are not to decorate the temple of the Holy Spirit (our body) in any way. Not with makeup, patterned clothes, jewelry, tatooes etc but we see nothing in scripture about decorating houses, so to us, it's a matter of conviction per believer. (If you have a husband you must be obedient to him in his decision even if it is against what you choose, unless it is sinful.) Read Ephesians 5, wives submit to husbands.
Of course we are to be good stewards of our money and our lives are to be a living witness to those around us so we must use wisdom in this area. What I have learned over the years that although a woman may have some liberty in the area of decorating homes, function trumps fancy.
Brother Jim and I have decided that having most everything plain is best in our home. I'm not saying we don't have anything without a pattern but pretty much all of it is basic and plain looking. How you decorate is your choice and conviction but you need to make sure you align with your husband if you are married.
Brother Jim and I have decided that having most everything plain is best in our home. I'm not saying we don't have anything without a pattern but pretty much all of it is basic and plain looking. How you decorate is your choice and conviction but you need to make sure you align with your husband if you are married.
Let me share the differences between the views of men and women in this... A man wants a solid house, windows that open, doors that shut, counters that can have stuff set on it, floors that can be walked on, furniture that can be sat on and plates that can be eaten off.
Women normally want more than function and look to make things more aesthetically pleasing. There's nothing wrong with that, if done in moderation, but let me ask you this....does your decorating hinder your husband from appreciating the home he works hard for?
Women normally want more than function and look to make things more aesthetically pleasing. There's nothing wrong with that, if done in moderation, but let me ask you this....does your decorating hinder your husband from appreciating the home he works hard for?
Let me give you an example of what I mean. Say your husband is out working all day cutting wood and cleaning the yard.
Does he have to take off his shoes before he walks into the house? Do you have to worry about what furniture he sits on?
Can he easily open a window or does he have to fumble around with shades or curtains that are hard to manage? Is the plate he's eating off durable enough or does he feel like it'll crumble under his hand?
Godly women are given the role of keeper of the home and in that they have much authority to make such decisions but I encourage you to be careful because in your decisions you may be practicing feminism without being aware of it. How? Just like I mentioned above, he has to do what you want him to do in the house because you want it to be the way you want it.
What I'm trying to get at is that you need to work with your husband in this area and be very careful not to have too much influence that hinders how your husband has to live in the home. Function is a necessity and a husband will understand that a wife needs things put in certain places in the kitchen, things might need to be done a certain way etc. A husband will also most likely tell a wife she can decorate whatever she likes but when your decorating hinders how your husband can live, you're now practicing feminism because he has to follow your rules.
I would encourage you to examine this area of your life and see if you're decorating desires are hindering your husband.
Have a joyous evening sisters.
Love in Christ,
Sister Deb
Does he have to take off his shoes before he walks into the house? Do you have to worry about what furniture he sits on?
Can he easily open a window or does he have to fumble around with shades or curtains that are hard to manage? Is the plate he's eating off durable enough or does he feel like it'll crumble under his hand?
Godly women are given the role of keeper of the home and in that they have much authority to make such decisions but I encourage you to be careful because in your decisions you may be practicing feminism without being aware of it. How? Just like I mentioned above, he has to do what you want him to do in the house because you want it to be the way you want it.
What I'm trying to get at is that you need to work with your husband in this area and be very careful not to have too much influence that hinders how your husband has to live in the home. Function is a necessity and a husband will understand that a wife needs things put in certain places in the kitchen, things might need to be done a certain way etc. A husband will also most likely tell a wife she can decorate whatever she likes but when your decorating hinders how your husband can live, you're now practicing feminism because he has to follow your rules.
I would encourage you to examine this area of your life and see if you're decorating desires are hindering your husband.
Have a joyous evening sisters.
Love in Christ,
Sister Deb
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