Win Him Without A Word But Don't Wait
Greetings, love and blessings to our faithful sisters in Christ!
I pray you are standing strong on the Word and not letting anyone or circumstances sway you from the truth! Today I want to give encouragement to sisters who are married to professed believers that are not fully obeying the Word whether they just don't see it or are in outright rebellion.
We know there are women who are further along in the truth than their professing husbands and I'm here to encourage you to quietly live out your obedience and not be swayed or stumbled by his disobedience. 1 Peter 3 instructs godly women what to do in such situation:
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: [6] Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
1 Peter 3:1-6
That means a godly woman who sees truth in the scriptures can surely bring it up to her husband but if he does not see it, does not want to discuss it or does not obey it (regardless of the reasons) she is to silently go forth in obedience to her Lord, trusting in Him for all things. She is not to nag, continue bringing up the topics or use any sort of manipulation tactics (tears, sadness, depression etc), she is to quietly and joyfully serve the Lord.
And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; [24] Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. [25] But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.
Colossians 3:23-25
Most women would agree to this in many situations but I'm going to offer up some topics that can be unusual to deal with. These situations are in reference to those who have no other believers in their life that are actively living out the true faith. Obviously it's best to do things as a body but most people don't have that in these last days with the saints scattered and I don't want any women to be stumbled and weakened in the faith by waiting. (Click the highlighted words to read the corresponding articles.)
Baptism. The wife may see baptism in the Word but her husband either doesn't or for some reason does not feel it is important enough to address. She should bring this to him but if he does nothing with it, she is to quietly go forward in her obedience and can most certainly baptize herself.
Prayer. Prayer is mostly a private practice as we see in scripture but the body can also pray together. If a wife asks a husband to pray with her and he has no desire to, for whatever reason, she is not to continue asking after seeing he is not interested. Instead, she is to pray on her own and learn how to be strengthened in it without him.
Lord's Supper. If a wife asks her husband to do the Lord's Supper with her and he chooses not to (for whatever reason) she is to go forward with it on her own, as unto the Lord.
Study of the Word. You are to continue to study and hide the Word of God in your heart whether he wants to do it with you or not.
The Lord understands in all these situations and will honor a biblical woman doing her best unto Him. As in all things we see in the scriptures, saints are to obey what they learn, when they learn it, not wait for others. Nowhere in scriptures does it say a wife is to hold off her obedience to the Lord because her husband is not in full unity in these areas. (Or if a sister is single she is to proceed on her own as well.)
She must press on faithfully and patiently allow the Lord to work in her husband even if it takes a year, 10 years or maybe never. I encourage those of you who are in such situations to not allow your flesh to make you wait for him or feel like you have done something wrong because you have to do such things on your own. The battle is a spiritual one that the Lord will deal with your husband, His will be done.
We all have to work out our salvation with fear and trembling and we cannot take anyone with us, we can only do what we can in our life, living obediently unto the Lord. Be a joyous, godly woman, a daughter of the most High and rejoice that you have the hope of eternal life. Don't let anything stumble you along the way.
Brother Jim made a very encouraging audio today called 'Crying Out To God', you can listen to it HERE.
May the Lord give you strength to strive on sisters.
Love in Christ,
Sister Deb
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